Friday, March 25, 2011

Court Stinks

I had to go to court yesterday. It was a mess. My ex-husband was trying to get his child support obligation modified (read - instead of getting a job and paying it, he was hoping to have the amount lowered). I already have a court date set up for the end of April to prove he's in contempt of court on multiple issues. A couple days ago, he dropped off papers stating he had a court date for Thursday. Thanks for the notice, buddy. I tried calling my lawyer many times, but he never returned any of my phone calls. So, I went to court.

I got there half an hour early, went into the court room and had a seat. From 10:30 until after 12:00, I sat there, waiting for my turn. My ex wasn't there. When I was one of the last ones left in the room, the judge called me up. I showed her the papers that my ex had given me and she said that I must have just missed him because he checked in earlier and the case was dismissed. I'm not sure why, but I think it was because he couldn't file a request while I already had a court date set up. I'm really not sure about this. All I know is that I wasted four and a half hours going downtown when I could've been having fun with my kids on their spring break. Ticked me off! And I don't know who I'm more mad at - my ex for wasting my time or my lawyer for not returning my calls about this.

14 comments:

Cheryl said...

Be mad at your lawyer. Your ex is expected to be a jerk. Your lawyer is paid to help you, not to be a jerk.

The Big-Bellied Beauty said...

I second what Cheryl said. Don't waste your time being mad at the ex (Joe doesn't deserve any more of your time), the lawyer is paid to answer your calls.

V1nce said...

I'd be mad at your lawyer and ex. So did the lawyer ever called back? What was his excuse?

Sharon said...

I sure hope you don't have to pay for that "representation"!

twohappyhomes said...

Sounds like you need a new lawyer, that's crazy that they didn't get back to you. I think you may be right about having files papers first. Good luck!

Vivian M said...

Sounds like you need a new lawyer. Ugh.

isingsoprano said...

Lawyers are supposed to answer your phone calls. I should know, I AM a lawyer. (Although I don't practice anymore. I'm a homeschooling mom who spends all my time trying to persuade my two children to DO THEIR WORK.) Your lawyer had better have a good explanation. And even though you wasted your time, you were right to go to court and wait. Anything could have happened, but you were there to protect yourself and your kids. So give yourself a pat on the back for doing the right thing.

Megryansmom said...

Love ya Dawn.

p.s. This post reminds me of The Song that Never Ends. The links just keeping looping around and around and around. Yikes stop already, I need to get off, I'm dizzy!

andy said...

My first thought is the same as the rest of the posts.
Then I re-read your post and thought something is not right about this. Why wasn't your lawyer notified about this and why weren't pagers delievered to you by the court?
As for the lawyer???? Keep trying to get in touch with them and get some answers. Also, keep your paper trail going. Your ex is already in trouble with the court for not paying child support. When he lost his job he should of went to the courts then, not wait until now to try and work something out.
If he was layed off why is there not unemployement to draw child support from?
Lots of questions to be answered that it sounds like a trip to your lawyer would answer.
Good Luck on finding answers, hope everything works out.

WhisperingWriter said...

I'd also be frustrated. I hate when my time is wasted.

Susan (5 Minutes For Mom) said...

What a nightmare. I'm sooooo sorry to hear that!

bdonna426 said...

I bet the lawyer got the papers and dealt with it but forgot to inform you. Maybe your X delivered it to you as he already knew it would be cancelled but wanted to upset you.
Glad you did go anyway as that will help you more in the long run.
Hang in there......but be very aware of your X !!!!

perilsofdivorcedpauline.com said...

I just discovered your hysterical blog and am amazed that you are a single mom to SIX kids!! My hat's off to you, and good luck with the child support! Look forward to reading more of your stuff.

Shona said...

Just found your blog and enjoying it a lot. The Mom blogs are always the best to read, because they are so real.

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