tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post1857969623698696470..comments2024-03-25T03:13:16.489-04:00Comments on BECAUSE I SAID SO: The Boy Who Cried WolfDawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00465587872521082056noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-17058325675132889592008-12-03T03:04:00.000-05:002008-12-03T03:04:00.000-05:00'Atta girl Dawn! I'm 21 and boy oh boy did I lear...'Atta girl Dawn! I'm 21 and boy oh boy did I learn the hard way not to lie to my parents too. Now every time I mess up, I 'fess up. "Tell the truth, there's less to remember".<BR/>Austin will be juuuust fine. He's a big boy, he needs to take his medicine. Even if he isn't sick. :P But I have to agree with one of the other posters on here, it's really difficult to ban kids from reading for kirkygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13737002850528830780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-3109176552783621272008-12-01T22:11:00.000-05:002008-12-01T22:11:00.000-05:00I think it's great that you grounded him for two w...I think it's great that you grounded him for two weeks, not because I want the kid to suffer, but because I think parents need to provide consequences to poor choices. As someone who works with teens in both a school and church setting, I get so frustrated with parents who want their kids' behavior to change, but don't do anything to modify their behavior. It's so refreshing to hear about parentsBritneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17943752135181453748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-5612459868537603712008-12-01T09:55:00.000-05:002008-12-01T09:55:00.000-05:00Wow, you are brave to leave yourself open to criti...Wow, you are brave to leave yourself open to critiques of your parenting style. Hope you didn't get too many rude comments. I have had this problem w/ my daughter too. As far as schoolwork goes, I put it back in her lap, but she knows that if there is something distracting her from schoolwork, computer, tv, etc. it goes away. W/ the lying, she got the lecture on trust being dissolved, the promiseAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-9859661404844948802008-11-29T16:35:00.000-05:002008-11-29T16:35:00.000-05:00Lesley, do you have any kids?Do you know what it i...Lesley, do you have any kids?<BR/><BR/>Do you know what it is to feed them, change their diapers, care for them, love them more than anything in the world, know them better than they know themselves (also known as mommy radar) and have them lie to you? <BR/><BR/>I think you are so off base here, not because Dawn is unkind, but because if she doesn't discipline him on something now he will think Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-27459709122212826292008-11-29T16:30:00.000-05:002008-11-29T16:30:00.000-05:00Dawn, Dawn, Dawn. The day will come when he apolo...Dawn, Dawn, Dawn. The day will come when he apologizes to you for being such a kid, and treating you this way. Until then, though you want your "children to rise up and call you blessed," just be grateful they don't rise up in mutiny. <BR/><BR/>I feel for you. I had two gifted kids who didn't do their work. They were not challenged enough and bored so they quickly got out of the learning Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-86822022741580099322008-11-28T01:38:00.000-05:002008-11-28T01:38:00.000-05:00Sorry, I kind of agree with Lesley.I am 22 now, an...Sorry, I kind of agree with Lesley.I am 22 now, and think I turned out ok. I hated school more than anyone, and remember it like it was yesterday. Being 13 is HORRIBLE and I wouldn't do it again for anything in the world. You have school, peer pressure, siblings, parents, and hormones! While he does need some sort of punishment, having a good talk with him will go a long way too. If one of my Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-69610872674793285592008-11-27T10:54:00.000-05:002008-11-27T10:54:00.000-05:00Let us know how the writing assignment goes. If it...Let us know how the writing assignment goes. If it works for you, I might have to try it myself.Sila Lumennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14998450433175337728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-65652118195154998682008-11-27T10:01:00.000-05:002008-11-27T10:01:00.000-05:00Happy Thanksgiving Dawn =) So, did you end up hav...Happy Thanksgiving Dawn =) So, did you end up having Austin write the paper? Here I thought I was the only "mean mom" that did that. I figured that if I had my daughter write a 500 page paper about what lying does to trust and relationships, and occasionally she still needs a "refresher" assignment =)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-62349840756406384482008-11-27T08:27:00.000-05:002008-11-27T08:27:00.000-05:00I have to admit I am so glad to hear what your pun...I have to admit I am so glad to hear what your punishment for him is. I would have done the same punishment and I think a lot of my friends (and my crazy mother-out-law) would have thought I was way too hard on him. We have punished our oldest (5th grade) in this exact manner for this exact amount of time before but I LOVE your idea of having him write an additional paper on lying and how it Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-15495681450459700332008-11-27T05:12:00.000-05:002008-11-27T05:12:00.000-05:00My son was grounded from the age of 13 until..... ...My son was grounded from the age of 13 until..... well, let's just say I understood why some animals eat their young! I was so frustrated because he is so smart and talented, and could care less about applying any of that to life!<BR/><BR/>He's 21 now, finally (with my help) got a good job. He'll probably live at home forever (at least, that's what HE says). <BR/><BR/>It does get better.Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09099919133837312586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-932765709543619432008-11-27T01:19:00.000-05:002008-11-27T01:19:00.000-05:00Wow, 2 weeks--are you going to be able to enforce ...Wow, 2 weeks--are you going to be able to enforce that? I guess I'm used to 4- and 7-minute time-outs!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-86134184552799138652008-11-26T23:01:00.000-05:002008-11-26T23:01:00.000-05:00DUDE, the amount of times my children did this dro...DUDE, the amount of times my children did this drove me bananas. I can't believe I was so dang slow I didn't pick up on it for ages.<BR/><BR/>However, they did it so often that now my trust is completely eroded to the point that unless they are actually throwing up AND I SEE IT (Yes, I tell them if they throw up, flush it, THEN tell me it doesn't count) they still have to do the schoolwork. (WeKeeleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10699051418849331296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-47946217773440370922008-11-26T21:46:00.000-05:002008-11-26T21:46:00.000-05:00Ahhh, lovely. I'm glad I'm not the only one who g...Ahhh, lovely. I'm glad I'm not the only one who gives writing assignments for misbehaviors. Mister Man wrote a sorry letter to his daycare/kindergarten teacher for the misbehavior in class recently. Yeah... that's a blog post in the making ;)<BR/><BR/>Good luck with Austin!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07803503583347758969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-26948044402905734562008-11-26T18:25:00.000-05:002008-11-26T18:25:00.000-05:00Actually I think you were a little harsh on him.No...Actually I think you were a little harsh on him.<BR/>Now I dont excuse lying but ask yourself if you have never fibbed to get out of a tricky situation?<BR/>He may have felt sick due to worry about the assignment and being the age he is now, felt it too babyish to ask for your help.<BR/><BR/>Talk to him about the incident and see what he has to say. His hormones are rampaging around his body Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-80320658482476564922008-11-26T17:56:00.000-05:002008-11-26T17:56:00.000-05:00Wow! A ton of good ideas here! We just went throu...Wow! A ton of good ideas here! We just went through this for about two weeks, except they really did have some kind of bug. One had red blotches all over her legs and they hurt to the touch. The other had a screaming red throat...from post-nasal drip. Neither had fevers! I caved! They almost got everything made up before Turkey day. I agree with the others...go with your gut!noexcuseshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14149834972952594159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-7128685363577028852008-11-26T17:53:00.000-05:002008-11-26T17:53:00.000-05:00I can tolerate just about anything from my daughte...I can tolerate just about anything from my daughter, but when she lies to me, I completely come undone. I don't care WHAT the situation, DO NOT lie to me and we'll be cool. I love that you sort of suspected all along... your Mom Radar is pretty in tune!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-59366112160052901202008-11-26T16:57:00.000-05:002008-11-26T16:57:00.000-05:00I make my kids write essays when they misbehave, l...I make my kids write essays when they misbehave, lie, etc. I always figured it was a more effective punishment than taking things away. The essay makes them think about what they did, why they did it, consequences, that kind of thing. I usually make it at least a page long too. Depending on the severity determines how long the paper is. <BR/><BR/>The important thing, IMO, is to follow through. Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05135274209326446813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-68062390009095811462008-11-26T16:30:00.000-05:002008-11-26T16:30:00.000-05:00Next time, call the school in front of him and ask...Next time, call the school in front of him and ask the teacher what assignment is due that he's looking to skip out on turning in today. Apparently he forgot this detail- that he eventually has to return to school, and the project will still be due anyway. Next time, go with your instincts and send him anyway.Feisty Irish Wenchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00689381839029507940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-65216815287490879262008-11-26T16:28:00.000-05:002008-11-26T16:28:00.000-05:00I remember pulling this one time (and only ONE tim...I remember pulling this one time (and only ONE time) with my Mom. I was 12, and when she found out I faked, she took me to school and held my hand for one full week taking me to my Homeroom. She also wrote a note to the nurse telling her I liked to fake people out so I was not allowed to come home sick unless I was either bleeding to death or puking my guts out. <BR/>Good luck, I hope the next 2 Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-89203440199595008432008-11-26T16:20:00.000-05:002008-11-26T16:20:00.000-05:00OMG, I feel terrible for you. I have a son who use...OMG, I feel terrible for you. I have a son who used to do the exact same thing. He's 21 now, and in his fourth year trying to get his associates degree. Two semesters ago he made the Dean's list; this past semester he got an incomplete in three out of five courses. He's just not interested in school, although he's very smart and always tested well on stadardized testing. Very frustrating. It Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-24647234831643798622008-11-26T15:53:00.000-05:002008-11-26T15:53:00.000-05:00Oh Dawn been there with oldest son. Hang in they g...Oh Dawn been there with oldest son. Hang in they grow up get married and have kids of their own and boy pay back is great.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-90031268153240870562008-11-26T15:42:00.000-05:002008-11-26T15:42:00.000-05:00How interesting, it must be contagious. The same ...How interesting, it must be contagious. The same thing happened here last week, except while he was home sick (monday)his teacher sent me an e-mail to remind him to bring his book project the next day to school which was due the previous Thursday. When asked about it he fessed up and said he was afraid I wouldn't let him go to a party he had over the weekend, if he told me on Friday. I was so Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-36948007097002256422008-11-26T15:36:00.000-05:002008-11-26T15:36:00.000-05:00Good plan.One of my favorite books is John Rosemon...Good plan.<BR/><BR/>One of my favorite books is John Rosemond's "Ending the Homework Hassle." It is full of good ideas for making sure the homework monkey is on the kid's back and not ours. He's funny, too.Suburban Correspondenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11488916572135296650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-66397434298663377762008-11-26T14:50:00.000-05:002008-11-26T14:50:00.000-05:00I think it's a great idea to make him write a pape...I think it's a great idea to make him write a paper on lying and its effects. My husband's dad made my husband write a paper on smoking and lung cancer when he tried smoking at the age of 14 and he never tried it again after that!Elleahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17565887032228097513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-22210741835428063932008-11-26T14:49:00.000-05:002008-11-26T14:49:00.000-05:00It'll be OK Dawn. My oldest didn't like school wo...It'll be OK Dawn. My oldest didn't like school work either. His last semester in college, he discovered he had to have a 2.0 in his MAJOR to graduate...and barely made it. Today, at 30, he's a fine productive member of society -- someone you'd be proud to call your son.Travel_with_a_purposehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11131821637388157690noreply@blogger.com