tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post7746499955057700615..comments2024-02-09T04:00:27.528-05:00Comments on BECAUSE I SAID SO: OverwhelmedDawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00465587872521082056noreply@blogger.comBlogger110125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-15383055175937491312010-04-10T22:11:40.203-04:002010-04-10T22:11:40.203-04:00I am a mom with 2 kids, and I work full time. I am...I am a mom with 2 kids, and I work full time. I am currently also preparing to divorce my 2nd husband. He left me one year ago exactly. It is hard. It is harder than death. It is even harder the 2nd time. I don't know how I get up in the morning sometimes, but I do. Life goes on. I do recommend "Divorce Care". It is a 13 week support group I went to at my church. Maybe a church nearSunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09345180477041749388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-12483077454912468382010-03-10T01:56:22.294-05:002010-03-10T01:56:22.294-05:00My heart breaks for those kids. I am so sorry. Wil...My heart breaks for those kids. I am so sorry. Will be praying for you and your family.TDM Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14490428486183766703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-23594025316501554132010-03-08T07:29:21.608-05:002010-03-08T07:29:21.608-05:00Hugs. As a military wife, I've learned that I&...Hugs. As a military wife, I've learned that I'm no good to anyone else if I don't take care of myself too. The dishes will wait. Go to bed early one night. Get a good night's sleep and start the next day refreshed. Another thing I've learned is there's no shame in asking for help when you need it. Deployment was a very humbling experience for me. I learned I couldn't Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04022107939949744505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-51414717320347976242010-03-07T09:16:02.525-05:002010-03-07T09:16:02.525-05:00Dawn,
1. You are an amazingly strong and intelli...Dawn, <br /><br />1. You are an amazingly strong and intelligent woman. <br />2. Your kids know that with you and faith, they will be well taken care of.<br />3. Clean clothes, food in their belly, and a roof over their head....that's what they need above you and your love.<br />4. Your new best friends should be a stand alone freezer and a crock pot. Make that TWO crock pots. Do as much Andrea S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17486364366924566161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-2804151433206552452010-03-06T07:19:51.919-05:002010-03-06T07:19:51.919-05:00Hello Dawn,
Military Mom here. . . We are on yet ...Hello Dawn,<br /><br />Military Mom here. . . We are on yet another deployment, living in Germany, and preparing to move (all by myslef this time). Here are some things that get us through.<br /><br />Be bold and change things. Your family dynamics have changed. Start some new traditions and get rid of those that don't work anymore. <br /><br />Occasionally have the big kids read to the Jennifernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-61125855434366726602010-03-05T16:00:03.898-05:002010-03-05T16:00:03.898-05:00Sending hugs and prayers for peace for you. I can...Sending hugs and prayers for peace for you. I can see why you would be just a tad bit overwhelmed, but know that you are being a wonderful and loving mom to your precious children. Hang in there & know that there are lots of us praying for your family & cheering you on...HuNnY aNd PoPpA LeWiShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03476563455225332867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-91792799449105841052010-03-05T11:01:12.153-05:002010-03-05T11:01:12.153-05:00Dawn, sounds like with all you are going through y...Dawn, sounds like with all you are going through you are holding up amazingly well. I don't have any advice for you at the moment. My husband isn't in the Military, or away for long periods of time. <br />Its good that you occasionally drop the blog ball, and not the kid ball - you are a great mom!MaBunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07729495477063071692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-10677588030661352382010-03-05T00:32:07.511-05:002010-03-05T00:32:07.511-05:00Wow Dawn, the 7 of you are an awesome team because...Wow Dawn, the 7 of you are an awesome team because of the great job you've done as their mom. You'll all get through this together. My advice to you is get enough sleep. It's so hard to think straight when you're exhausted. You have a lot of people rooting for you and the kids!Kelly R.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-71942462594813320392010-03-04T23:50:58.230-05:002010-03-04T23:50:58.230-05:00Dawn,
It sounds as though you are doing well unde...Dawn,<br /><br />It sounds as though you are doing well under the circumstances. The best thing to remember is that in a few years you will have them all in school and you will get a little time on some days to go back to bed!<br /><br />My best advice is to move where your kids can ride the bus! But since that probably won't work I would try really hard to carpool with another parent for Tasha Hickerthttp://thestampinglady.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-7299410140348481242010-03-04T23:41:41.727-05:002010-03-04T23:41:41.727-05:00I'm sorry I haven't read through the 90 od...I'm sorry I haven't read through the 90 odd posts. My husband is away approx 5 out of 7 nights as he is a truck driver and we own our own business (READ: if the wheels aren't turning, we aren't earning). I only have 2 kids, but what has saved me is the Flylady system. I've been doing it on and off for 10 years but really gave my full effort just this January (sad I know, Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-54246043732899039222010-03-04T23:32:11.728-05:002010-03-04T23:32:11.728-05:00I am so sorry that you are going thru this. Lots o...I am so sorry that you are going thru this. Lots of hugs for you and the kiddos. My parents have each been divorced TWICE. It is hard on the kids especially when one parent is acting like Joe is, but all I can say is BE HONEST to the best of your ability without hurting them. Tell them he is having a hard time and not handling it well so he is making some bad choices. But that all of you can prayKamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00031308768626218429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-8455476872627796992010-03-04T23:24:52.574-05:002010-03-04T23:24:52.574-05:00Hi Dawn...Sorry Joe is being such a putz....Karma ...Hi Dawn...Sorry Joe is being such a putz....Karma always kicks in however and his may be painful. I'm a mom of 5 who spent much of my time alone with them. Advice:<br />1. Do NOT turn away help when it is offered.<br />2. Lower your expectations. I don't think I opened my kid's bedroom doors until they grew up and moved out.<br />3. Make the kids your priority. <br />4. It's OK toAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-37884648534914913372010-03-04T23:23:50.629-05:002010-03-04T23:23:50.629-05:00Dawn, My heart goes out to you and your kids. As...Dawn, My heart goes out to you and your kids. As a single mom of 2 I know exactly where you are at. I work 3 jobs to support my kids, their father at one point wanted nothing to do with them and I was at my wits end with daily work. I used to feel guilty for their father not wanting to be part of their life, but I soon realized that he was the one who would some day wake up and realize what Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-62907836548544515722010-03-04T22:56:54.924-05:002010-03-04T22:56:54.924-05:00Dawn... I will miss you on here but totally unders...Dawn... I will miss you on here but totally understand.<br />You have given us all so many laughs and fun in here. But it is important you spend time with the kids and yourself. Know it has to be hard for you and the blog can wait and wait. Just drop a few lines and show some pictures at times so we know you are ok.<br /><br />As for Joe.... I think he is ashamed of himself and can't face Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02685562616965907033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-25326731372581283572010-03-04T22:53:06.495-05:002010-03-04T22:53:06.495-05:00The biggest tip I can give you, you already know.....The biggest tip I can give you, you already know....just love your kids. It's so hard for kids to understand adult things like divorce. Hopefully with you there beside them, loving them and keeping your sense of humor in tact, they'll come thru this knowing how much you & Joe both love them.<br /><br />Hang in there. Give lots of hugs and for God's sake don't worry about Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01426211079691326347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-86072959203701417662010-03-04T22:13:06.581-05:002010-03-04T22:13:06.581-05:00the only thing i can imagine is that joe is trying...the only thing i can imagine is that joe is trying to make you see how it is without him by completely dropping out of sight in his attempt to win you back. but to do that to his kids is probably the most unforgivable thing he has done. many women are both mom and dad, and you are strong enough to be among them. i hope you are all getting some kind of counseling to help the kids try to lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08038101627479448044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-24176003974447871842010-03-04T21:12:32.992-05:002010-03-04T21:12:32.992-05:00OMG I'm so sorry. Somehow I seem to have misse...OMG I'm so sorry. Somehow I seem to have missed your post about the divorce and was all "what??? divorce?" when I read this post. I can't imagine how hard this must be for you all. I really hope time does help everyone heal. I know with you at the helm the kids will be fine. But you have to take care of yourself too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-69963179034675328842010-03-04T20:43:55.711-05:002010-03-04T20:43:55.711-05:00I'm so sorry to hear about what you and the ki...I'm so sorry to hear about what you and the kids are going through. I wish I could offer some advice. What I can surely offer are many prayers for all of you.<br /><br />Don't worry about the "blog" ball, all of us will still be here when you have time to post. Hopefully, you'll be able to let us know how you're doing from time to time because you'll be on our Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-77534860776449097772010-03-04T20:36:02.054-05:002010-03-04T20:36:02.054-05:00Dawn been there done that living with it every day...Dawn been there done that living with it every day. A father who has forgotten his kids. I have one of those. But thankfully I have a brand new hubby. Well now he is kinds used. We have been together 8 years married 6. My hubby picks up the slack. My ex hasnt paid regular support in YEARS. and now has cancer and wonders why the kids dont want to be around him. I have made them go see Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-35283745780139462882010-03-04T20:23:23.153-05:002010-03-04T20:23:23.153-05:00Definately drop the blog ball! I hope that things...Definately drop the blog ball! I hope that things come together for you! Players are sent your way!<br /><br />LynnA Mother's Thoughtshttp://www.amothersthoughts.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-8993827135552250472010-03-04T20:14:41.662-05:002010-03-04T20:14:41.662-05:00Just lots of prayers and hugs....Just lots of prayers and hugs....jenny222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-3618919764086562552010-03-04T19:36:26.832-05:002010-03-04T19:36:26.832-05:00I just wanted to give you a virtual pat on the bac...I just wanted to give you a virtual pat on the back. No matter how you cut it divorce is hard on everyone but you're handling it really well. One of the best things you can do for your kids is not talk badly about their father (at least not when they'll hear) and keep assuring them that he really does love them. I say this both from experience as a kid of divorced parents and as a Angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07952141751557039884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-64736426896084836912010-03-04T19:23:21.394-05:002010-03-04T19:23:21.394-05:00Have a family conference with your kids and see wh...Have a family conference with your kids and see what they think they can do to help or do without. I did this with my two girls all the time, the only 2 rules were no one could get mad and I didn't have to follow through with their ideas. I'm not divorced but kids are smarter than we give them credit for. Most times our family conference got things out in the open that I had no clue aboutSharonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-2289065961433687792010-03-04T19:16:07.185-05:002010-03-04T19:16:07.185-05:00I have been reading your blog for some time now an...I have been reading your blog for some time now and just wanted you to know you have support out in the world you never knew you had. I know that does not help get the dishes done but, just concentrate on yourself first then the kids they need you more than ever now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-28830298284905406512010-03-04T19:09:42.674-05:002010-03-04T19:09:42.674-05:00It's totally understandable. Hey, even I get ...It's totally understandable. Hey, even I get overwhelmed and I don't have any kids at all. (Even though I know how kids alone can wring you out; I grew up with 10 siblings, seven of them were younger than me...) Anyways, I will pray for you so you will have enough strength, wisdom and patience to go through each day. It will get better eventually, it always does! [**hugs**] <br />P.SLyudanoreply@blogger.com