tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post6589566570381399426..comments2024-02-09T04:00:27.528-05:00Comments on BECAUSE I SAID SO: Judge Not, That Ye Be Not JudgedDawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00465587872521082056noreply@blogger.comBlogger228125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-90892185101661946352008-06-11T18:39:00.000-04:002008-06-11T18:39:00.000-04:00Dear Dawn,Loved this post! I hope that more moms ...Dear Dawn,<BR/><BR/>Loved this post! I hope that more moms will treat one another with more compassion and less judgement. We are all guilty of this at times but what a wonderful gift when you receive a kind nod instead of a scowl at the grocery store. I never knew true humbling until I took my twin boys out shopping for a day! Best to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-35183591469764111332008-06-10T12:04:00.000-04:002008-06-10T12:04:00.000-04:00When I read the post in question, I was thinking, ...When I read the post in question, I was thinking, oh yes, I have had those days, too. And that is what I love about reading posts like this - I know that I'm not alone. Furthermore, I find it impossible to believe that the judgmental commenter (or any mom) has never had one of those days with her own children. <BR/><BR/>And I agree with you, there is such a huge difference in boy children v. Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03615726032561938972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-18748110199360671502008-06-09T15:34:00.000-04:002008-06-09T15:34:00.000-04:00Preach it sister. I completely agree. We've all ...Preach it sister. I completely agree. We've all had those days when we wish we could pretend that those screaming, fighting kids in the grocery store are not ours. But as every senior citizen tells me when I'm out with my crew(after they say, "my goodness you have your hands full don't you?" of course) enjoy them now because they grow up so fast. Keep inspiring us Dawn.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-464439356531662212008-06-09T00:46:00.000-04:002008-06-09T00:46:00.000-04:00As a teenager I had a terribly judgemental pastor ...As a teenager I had a terribly judgemental pastor who constantly criticized the parenting of others and always bragged on his "perfect" children. Guess whose daughter became a teenage parent? Pride comes before a fall. He was certainly humbled and that woman will be also. I just hope it's not at her children's expense.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05910194827852283410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-14122522599695013832008-06-07T13:58:00.000-04:002008-06-07T13:58:00.000-04:00Dawn, Just have fun messing with those judgemental...Dawn, <BR/>Just have fun messing with those judgemental souls! One of my fondest memories was a time my husband and I took the kids to the mall and had a few of my best friend's kids with us as well...to the best of my recollection we had seven kids with us all told from a baby up to about eight years old. One lady looked at us and said,"OH MY GOD!! Are they ALL yours?" (talk about a judgementSally Datriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00500384967260052638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-7566646555393847622008-06-07T10:05:00.000-04:002008-06-07T10:05:00.000-04:00Dawn...about that judging thing, completely agree....Dawn...about that judging thing, completely agree...how easy it is for someone with no children to give that evil eye to a stressed parent. But what is great about having your children grown, and now spoiling your grandchildren, is when I see that woman who's kids are less than perfect, I can smile and laugh to myself, thinknig been there done that. Of course there are the times where I think "DonnaPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10765515857017860372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-10420093449725001472008-06-07T09:32:00.000-04:002008-06-07T09:32:00.000-04:00First let me say that, while the internet gives us...First let me say that, while the internet gives us the opportunity to access incredible amounts of information and to share thoughts and ideas in a public forum that allows us to surpass that 15 minutes if fame theory... it also gives unkind people the anonymity to criticize in ways they would never do face to face.<BR/><BR/>As for parenting, I have two grown and one almost grown child. I Lollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10989458698259879374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-89028864447197591722008-06-07T00:27:00.000-04:002008-06-07T00:27:00.000-04:00Must be nice to have perfect kids huh? I know I do...Must be nice to have perfect kids huh? I know I don't. I am not the perfect parent either. I love your stories.<BR/><BR/>I was at Kroger's drive up window for the pharmecy the other day. Normally I would go in because it is a total pain to get my Durango up in that driveway, but my 8mth old was asleep....FINALLY. I did not want to wake her up. She badly needed her nap. <BR/><BR/>They were Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-1396311042622313572008-06-06T21:25:00.000-04:002008-06-06T21:25:00.000-04:00This made me think of your blog and some of the ri...This made me think of your blog and some of the ridiculous ideas of what a good mother is (don't know who originally wrote it). From one Real Mom to another! :)<BR/><BR/><BR/>Mommy to Mom to Mother<BR/> <BR/>Real Mothers don't eat quiche; they don't have time to make it. <BR/><BR/>Real Mothers know that their kitchen utensils are probably in the sandbox. <BR/><BR/>Real Mothers often haveAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-24335974584449495432008-06-06T19:17:00.000-04:002008-06-06T19:17:00.000-04:00People's perception of what "acting up" is entirel...People's perception of what "acting up" is entirely different also. And I think Dawn is being nice, when trying to take it with a grain of salt, quite frankly, I don't think the lady meant it in a "nice" way at all. With my six, I get it all the time, even when they're behaving perfectly, people give us dirty looks... while the 14 year old couple with thier two kids throwing things out of the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-59481211582531306882008-06-06T10:12:00.000-04:002008-06-06T10:12:00.000-04:00OK, I admit I'm a granddad who reads this column f...OK, I admit I'm a granddad who reads this column for (1) entertainment, and (2) insight. This column is a bit more serious than usual, but reinforces my advice to my kids (who are approaching their 30s, one with 2 3/4 kids, one hoping for one in the next couple of years). The only truth I know about kids is the last time I knew every thing there was to know about raising kids was . . . just davemazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15330923171806016597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-55187569504647397822008-06-06T07:20:00.000-04:002008-06-06T07:20:00.000-04:00Great post - I have a daughter who is now 26 and a...Great post - I have a daughter who is now 26 and a son who is 21. My son had ADHD, ODD, and was/is a challenge to raise. You are right about walking in a person's shoes before you feel compelled to judge them. I have so much compassion for a struggling parent - sometimes it seems that all that you do is wrong - but faith is what will help you keep holding on. I know there were times when I Vickihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17919000566291086049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-64521488320427598922008-06-05T22:15:00.000-04:002008-06-05T22:15:00.000-04:00Dawn,Wouldn't it be nice if all children were the ...Dawn,<BR/>Wouldn't it be nice if all children were the same and we never had to use the "crazy lady" voice or the severe discipline plans. <BR/><BR/>I have a boy and a girl. My son could be ADHD and my daughter is the classic strong willed child. It is fortunate for some that they never have to read every book that Dobson ever wrote, consult help outside the home or take a time out for yourself Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-76010020002768180642008-06-05T17:31:00.000-04:002008-06-05T17:31:00.000-04:00I have been in the store with my 5 year old son wh...I have been in the store with my 5 year old son when he has just completely lost it!! I always get so embarrassed because so many times I see dirty looks from other mothers, I mean come on, seriously like their kids have never thrown a tantrum in a store before. I have had those bad days before where I am almost in tears, but thank you to those women who do give me the look of "I've been there, Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-887429498139378712008-06-05T10:33:00.000-04:002008-06-05T10:33:00.000-04:00Thank you! What a great post! I always read, but u...Thank you! What a great post! I always read, but usually don't comment because I figure you've got your hands full already. However, this was so good I had to say, THANK YOU! Your adventures and mishaps help me remember I'm not alone when I'm dealing with my two boys having their own less than perfect moments. The laughter is always needed and appreciated too! Keep it up!Shellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11490103085002140788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-8467592838456568742008-06-05T01:09:00.000-04:002008-06-05T01:09:00.000-04:00Amen, sistah! Awesome blog! I think I was the ju...Amen, sistah! Awesome blog! I think I was the judgemental mom until I had child #3. I keep saying that he's lucky God made him as cute as he is ornery!Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00667913976092191899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-14152146013919799702008-06-04T23:01:00.000-04:002008-06-04T23:01:00.000-04:00Too funny. I totally had "I'd like to buy the worl...Too funny. I totally had "I'd like to buy the world a Coke" running through my head just the other day!<BR/><BR/>Oh, and my kids are totally different. The one that drives me craziest is just like me!! EEK!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-55049669562712881492008-06-04T21:51:00.000-04:002008-06-04T21:51:00.000-04:00Amen!!I am a single mother of three boys. My middl...Amen!!<BR/>I am a single mother of three boys. My middle child has ADD but is, for the most part, a pretty easy child. However, my youngest has ADHD and is not on medication yet because he is too young and my oldest has a severe mood disorder with ADHD type symtoms. That boy passed difficult a looong time ago. He looks like any other nine year old kid, but everyonce in a while he will have a Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-69042801973086907922008-06-04T21:27:00.000-04:002008-06-04T21:27:00.000-04:00Dawn: Good post. We recently adopted our 3 child...Dawn: Good post. We recently adopted our 3 children after having custody of them for a year and a half. They are 6, 3, and one (the baby we got at birth). I have had several people comment on their behavior, my son also has adhd, and people don't know the whole situation, they dont know what kinds of life these kids have already overcome, and how they must feel. So I agree, we need to not Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15248438143638320033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-70108646933222370032008-06-04T21:03:00.000-04:002008-06-04T21:03:00.000-04:00I just wanted to thank you for your post. I read ...I just wanted to thank you for your post. I read your blog everyday and have never posted before now. It's nice to have a reminder of judgmental looks. I am a single mom to a 3year old boy(all boy) who is advanced and behaves somewhat like those with ADD/ADHD. It's hard, and yes, I feel as though I had a day like yours with only one kiddo. <BR/><BR/>EmilyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-61159095042396025502008-06-04T19:58:00.000-04:002008-06-04T19:58:00.000-04:00I heard someone say once, "I was a perfect parent,...I heard someone say once, "I was a perfect parent, till I had kids!" in reference to this very conversation!<BR/><BR/>Well said, and a great reminder to us all. And when you see a harried, stressed mom - offer a helping hand. We can all make the day more bearable if we come alongside one another rather than standing in judgment pointing a finger!The Gang's Momma!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12478478224173323982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-9719536703096982262008-06-04T18:46:00.000-04:002008-06-04T18:46:00.000-04:00Isn't it interesting that if you read between the ...Isn't it interesting that if you read between the lines of that criticism, it looks like they beat their oldest soundly enough that the younger ones don't dare misbehave. (I also think there's a degree of amnesia that sets in once your kids hit double digits and you forget the pain of toddlerhood and young school age just like you "forget" the pain of childbirth.") Our first son is one who made RefreshMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17755273960702792845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-17592696950584257202008-06-04T18:37:00.000-04:002008-06-04T18:37:00.000-04:00Even perfect parents who do everything right somet...Even perfect parents who do everything right sometimes have kids that decide they are going on a completely different path. Recently, my daughters, now 20 and 18, got into a heated discussion about how they were raised. They saw the same situations from different perspectives. Dawn, I've been reading your blog for a while and you seem like the most relaxed, normal, patient, and dedicated mom in Jacki Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01577724486441963956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-615864274499386232008-06-04T18:34:00.000-04:002008-06-04T18:34:00.000-04:00I so applaud you for saying what you did.. Just l...I so applaud you for saying what you did.. <BR/><BR/>Just last night we went to dinner with our Sunday School group. I have a 10 year old son with ADD/ADHD and I have 5 year old twins (boy/girl). <BR/><BR/>Yesterday was the last day of school and there was plenty of excitement in the air. <BR/><BR/>Kids at one table, adults at the table next to them. My two boys acted like they hadn't been Julshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02107810552315730730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-26318588370829345872008-06-04T18:04:00.001-04:002008-06-04T18:04:00.001-04:00People who are great at giving parenting advice fa...People who are great at giving parenting advice fall into two categories:<BR/><BR/>1. People who are not yet parents;<BR/><BR/>2. People whose children you will never meet.<BR/><BR/>You will never meet her kids; you just have to take it for granted that her kids are well-behaved. Who knows if they really are?<BR/><BR/>As far as I'm concerned, we should really only give advice when:<BR/><BR/>1. WeSheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06842674051346091248noreply@blogger.com