tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post5777238328650245440..comments2024-02-09T04:00:27.528-05:00Comments on BECAUSE I SAID SO: Thanks for Giving me Something to Write About?Dawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00465587872521082056noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-56291801941548877162011-04-07T07:25:20.977-04:002011-04-07T07:25:20.977-04:00My ex-husband hasn't seen his two kids since M...My ex-husband hasn't seen his two kids since May 2007. Not even in passing - he's 2000 miles away. Worse, he never even bothers to ask how the kids are doing, send them a birthday card, nothing. Zero contact with me or the kids. I really don't care if he hates me and never speaks to me again, but he was a stay-at-home dad for pretty much the entire time we were together (roughly sevenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-77327049241971733642011-03-28T02:05:41.055-04:002011-03-28T02:05:41.055-04:00Wow Girl, I am soooooo sorry!!!!!
If there is any...Wow Girl, I am soooooo sorry!!!!!<br /><br />If there is any way I can help ever, please let me know.<br /><br />I'm happy that you at least have such an awesome, supportive readership here.<br /><br />Hugs.<br />SusanSusan (5 Minutes For Mom)https://www.blogger.com/profile/05828073153427637589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-55411276923353926062011-03-25T16:13:14.173-04:002011-03-25T16:13:14.173-04:00You are doing a great job Dawn. My bilogical whom ...You are doing a great job Dawn. My bilogical whom I call by his first name was so busy being an alcoholic he didn't have time to be a parent. He would fill my head up with empty promises and I would believe them. I would then get mad at my only parent who loved and cared for me. Once I got older I realized he wasnt worth my time, love or engergy. I just wish my mom didn't have to spend soMimicutelipshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14006291063298500884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-5785399700728017062011-03-25T10:52:29.734-04:002011-03-25T10:52:29.734-04:00Wow, I just discovered your blog and am already ho...Wow, I just discovered your blog and am already hooked. And man do you put things in perspective. My alcoholic/addict ex-husband put me and our son through hell and then just disappeared only to call on birthdays and want to spend 45 min with his child while I continue to chase him down for a bit of measly child support here and there, meanwhile he is already over $10,000 past due after just a Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14978241740145340062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-57979941466320608582011-03-23T20:59:12.517-04:002011-03-23T20:59:12.517-04:00Ok now that explains it. You did what you had to d...Ok now that explains it. You did what you had to do for your family and he did what he had to do to risk innocent people's lives on the road drink and get lap dances. Nope he's a total a@@ an you're way more man than he will ever be. (It's a complement)V1ncehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16965823224765071292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-3110467453685287112011-03-23T19:48:40.168-04:002011-03-23T19:48:40.168-04:00Dawn,
Hang in there!
I wanted to comment on your...Dawn,<br /><br />Hang in there!<br /><br />I wanted to comment on your housing situation and those saying consider a short-sale.<br /><br />First, for those saying it's not "as bad as" of a hit on your credit, they are wrong in some cases. Right now banks are viewing short-sales the same as a foreclosure in terms of future buying potential. That will obviously have to change at someSpaceyMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07376910270300223562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-73270469808894002382011-03-23T17:31:10.074-04:002011-03-23T17:31:10.074-04:00I'm sorry you have to deal with all this. Than...I'm sorry you have to deal with all this. Thanks for being so open and sharing your story. Don't feel bad about thinking that nothing bad had ever happened to you while you were reading Pearl Girls. I've noticed that many times other people's problems seem worse to us than our own problems. I'll keep you in my prayers.Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01980353959804981788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-61023105955691683552011-03-23T15:09:51.623-04:002011-03-23T15:09:51.623-04:00Your ex was/is really a piece of work! You are lu...Your ex was/is really a piece of work! You are lucky to be rid of him and good things will come your way because you are stronger and better for having lived through this experience. Hang tough for a while longer, things are going to change!Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07496957014142404165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-76111552154075287942011-03-23T13:24:33.919-04:002011-03-23T13:24:33.919-04:00Have you considered tutoring? You have very good w...Have you considered tutoring? You have very good writing skills and vocabulary. You should explore options for tutoring for English creative writing, SAT/GRE/GMAT English. That way you can work out the hours around your schedule, and also have a side source of income to take some pressure off.mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14635862045657655283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-42921131068176134282011-03-23T12:15:36.281-04:002011-03-23T12:15:36.281-04:00I'm sorry, the man is an ass of epic proportio...I'm sorry, the man is an ass of epic proportions. My biological father was a similar ass, and even at a very young age I caught on to that even though my mother never bad-mouthed him. Thankfully, I had a better step-dad. Your kids are incredibly lucky to have you as their mom, let me tell you.<br /><br />As far as housing goes, it never hurts to try looking into refinancing, short-sales, or Nickihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04300278435290112075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-74297374932668224832011-03-23T08:13:59.166-04:002011-03-23T08:13:59.166-04:00What an absolute a$$!!! I am totally disgusted at ...What an absolute a$$!!! I am totally disgusted at his response. How could a father NOT think about saying "Hi" to his kids. And taking you to court??? Insane!!! I am still praying for you guys.Jen@Scrapingirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08280261043942452491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-37726715432190750972011-03-23T07:41:26.098-04:002011-03-23T07:41:26.098-04:00It's so frustrating to deal with an adult who ...It's so frustrating to deal with an adult who still blames others for their own actions. I go through this with my mother. She was that divorced mother who bad mouthed the dad (and it was uncalled for). She did a lot of other things during my growing up years that a mother who loves her child just shouldn't do. Then she blamed the rest of the family for saying bad things about her and notAmandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04022107939949744505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-48866644012434606262011-03-23T03:26:54.298-04:002011-03-23T03:26:54.298-04:00Dawn, I know exactly where you are coming from!! ...Dawn, I know exactly where you are coming from!! After 6 years of fighting my ex for support (he owes me close to $10,000), I finally had the pleasure of seeing him sent to prison. Sure, I probably shouldn't be glad about it, but after years of receiving NADA from him, I was glad for some justice. He too practically abandoned our son and took me to court saying that I was "keeping himMelissa Shoughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11341076668481189387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-13912180490480787292011-03-22T23:41:55.306-04:002011-03-22T23:41:55.306-04:00I'm crying all over again because you are livi...I'm crying all over again because you are living my past life. Hang in there Dawn, somehow God always provided for us and he will for you too.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11186297078340530940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-51924506562092898002011-03-22T23:31:37.170-04:002011-03-22T23:31:37.170-04:00Hi Dawn,
Look into doing a short sale with your h...Hi Dawn,<br /><br />Look into doing a short sale with your house. I got divorced almost a year ago and neither my ex or myself could afford to keep our home. We had a shitty agent so it stayed on the market for a year and a half, BUT, we got a GOOD agent who put it up for short sale, and we had an offer in about 10 days.<br /><br />Short Sale is when you sell your home for LESS than market value,jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17006062434455968647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-48569286093763816342011-03-22T22:35:58.478-04:002011-03-22T22:35:58.478-04:00It wasn't the kids' fault that their fathe...It wasn't the kids' fault that their father lost his job, got a DUI and hasn't bothered to become legally employed again and that's who the support is for. Perhaps a judge will remind him of that when he tries to have his child support modified.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05581253958511238775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-4374903079483526232011-03-22T22:29:17.799-04:002011-03-22T22:29:17.799-04:00I am praying for you...lifting you up!! Praying fo...I am praying for you...lifting you up!! Praying for peace that surpasses all understanding!Denise ~ Paper Ponderingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12853096049477799881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-7493183683036225992011-03-22T22:27:24.590-04:002011-03-22T22:27:24.590-04:00Just keep trusting in God Dawn. My ex's lates...Just keep trusting in God Dawn. My ex's latest insanity has him blocking my kids from him on fb after spending days on his page whining about the lack of relationship he has with them and how I "brainwashed" them. Because of course it all has nothing to do with 7 years straight on absolutely no contact- no calls, no cards, no nothing or the 64 grand he owes in child support or theAmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11956170526105416459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-25817566047341629372011-03-22T20:58:43.923-04:002011-03-22T20:58:43.923-04:00I'm a teenager and I came across this blog a f...I'm a teenager and I came across this blog a few weeks ago. The absence of your kids' dad struck a chord with me. My parents haven't been together since before I was born, and I still haven't met my older siblings from my dad's side. So while the situation is completely different, I know how it feels when someone who is supposed to be important in your life just isn't M.L. Kenneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17998411052368674731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-4215987351056277442011-03-22T20:45:23.712-04:002011-03-22T20:45:23.712-04:00When I read your post, I think about the book of J...When I read your post, I think about the book of Job. For all of us, when we are in the middle of our own hell, it is good to look towards someone who has been through that in a biblical sense and relate that to our lives.<br /><br />You do seem to have amazing strength to get up and carry on each day as if it is a normal day. I will pray for you to have continued strength - as much as you needAmanda Armstronghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16148430875697179127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-36963420415085896592011-03-22T20:37:27.186-04:002011-03-22T20:37:27.186-04:00I really hope that things turn around for you..Lot...I really hope that things turn around for you..Lotto is up to 250 million, I played three tickets, and like before if I win, I'll help you out. You just seem like a nice person.. And a mother not seeing her child, here's one. My husband's mom hasn't talked to my husband in 16. years. All for something so stupid.. and my husband is a pretty decent guy. amazes me... Hope things get Notsopchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16617195445750260271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-86930910613171541592011-03-22T20:35:58.621-04:002011-03-22T20:35:58.621-04:00Dawn.. you are an amazing Mom doing right by her k...Dawn.. you are an amazing Mom doing right by her kids! Hang in there! Remember.. "don't let the turkeys get you down! (or is it chickens?) Sounds like your ex is a real turkey (or more like a jacka**).Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13894440263685070921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-21538471057527330412011-03-22T20:35:57.498-04:002011-03-22T20:35:57.498-04:00A number of colorful phrases describing what Joe h...A number of colorful phrases describing what Joe has done to you and especially the kids, came to mind when I read this. However, I am sure you've thought all those things before. :-)<br />You're always in my thoughts, Dawn. I sure hope things turn around soon.haggardmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09097049689417059046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-30085520261062487782011-03-22T20:34:09.967-04:002011-03-22T20:34:09.967-04:00I am so sorry about your ex-husband. I cannot even...I am so sorry about your ex-husband. I cannot even comprehend his behavior. It is totally inexusable and very very sad. <br />Have you tried refinancing instead of selling? If your house is worth less than you bought it for, it's worth a shot. <br />I have confidence you will sort this all out because you are so tough. <br />I will be keeping you in my thoughts.Katie Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05718236301872225743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-86361624905328603392011-03-22T20:26:34.122-04:002011-03-22T20:26:34.122-04:00Can you put your house in a management company and...Can you put your house in a management company and rent it out to cover the mortgage and then you rent somewhere cheaper?<br /><br />And let me blow some sunshine up your skirt. Isn't the worst day with these struggles better than the days with DUIs, lies, stripclubs and ragers? XXX - those are hugs right, don't want to overstep my bounds ;)Cheryl Pitthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05930832509544868744noreply@blogger.com