tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post4747683929839632239..comments2024-02-09T04:00:27.528-05:00Comments on BECAUSE I SAID SO: Week in ReviewDawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00465587872521082056noreply@blogger.comBlogger76125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-63209440475463021462010-04-11T21:45:56.750-04:002010-04-11T21:45:56.750-04:00Oh Dawn, major hugs to you.
I see your loyal rea...Oh Dawn, major hugs to you. <br /><br />I see your loyal readers have pretty much said all that needs to be said.<br />Just know that many of us are thinking of you and wish you and the kids peace and all the best.Magdahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06665261910887145495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-28058711800230371872010-04-09T22:17:05.553-04:002010-04-09T22:17:05.553-04:00I am sorry that you are going through divorce. My...I am sorry that you are going through divorce. My ex husband acted a lot in the same way that Joe is acting now. I couldn't understand for the life of me how he could go from an active father to hardly ever seeing the kids. He also turned very hateful and ugly to me. Then I found out that he was having an affair, and it made a lot of sense. He acted that way to lessen his own guilt. Jeanhttp://www.amazon.com/gp/browse.html?ie=UTF8&marketplaceID=ATVPDKIKX0DER&me=A1T633Y9S4TEFPnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-89066566087382212712010-04-09T20:17:04.994-04:002010-04-09T20:17:04.994-04:00Dawn, you're an amazing mom, and an awesome pe...Dawn, you're an amazing mom, and an awesome person. I can't imagine how difficult this is. I hope Joe will rethink this and decide to once again be the father you know him to be. I jokingly complain about having to share my beautiful daughter with her dad, but the truth is I would much rather be in my situation than yours, (sorry :-)<br />You are so optimistic, though and i know you will The Girl Next Doorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04244680994218501221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-69465319615149463482010-04-09T16:08:49.305-04:002010-04-09T16:08:49.305-04:00We are living parallel lives, Dawn. I've got s...We are living parallel lives, Dawn. I've got six kids too, going through a divorce, no cooperation, just hatred. It's all so very ugly that you can't believe it's really your life. Only difference is we're having a huge custody battle that's lasted a year with final trial not scheduled until April 2011. Two years of hell, pure hell. I'm so sorry.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14558853332095769428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-17534478666345053092010-04-09T13:04:22.492-04:002010-04-09T13:04:22.492-04:00I completely agree with you... you 'try' f...I completely agree with you... you 'try' for the kids, but you don't 'stay together' for the kids if it isn't working out. It is so much healthier for your kids if they see two seperate parents in healthy relationships rather than two parents 'sticking it out' in an unhealthy one. Kids grow up and imitate us and we need to make sure that we are giving them Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13981877137597350801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-62441566107643468652010-04-09T09:33:31.449-04:002010-04-09T09:33:31.449-04:00Dawn,
I'm really sorry that Joe has pulled awa...Dawn,<br />I'm really sorry that Joe has pulled away like he has. You're right there is no telling what his reason is unless he chooses to tell it. My only advice is what I got from my son's therapist when he was going through difficulties with his dad after our divorce. He'd pulled away too and I'd always told my son the same thing "you're dad loves you" but MagnoliaPrincesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11375253904700247637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-5502194603745039752010-04-08T22:13:49.295-04:002010-04-08T22:13:49.295-04:00You're awesome, Dawn, and don't forget it!...You're awesome, Dawn, and don't forget it! I read all the comments, and one stuck with me (for bad reasons). In a sea of people saying "keep going, you're doing great, Joe is making his own decisions" there was one lonely little person telling you that it's your job to MAKE him see the kids. <br /><br />I'm bringing this up because I hope it didn't stick for Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08243026834600480100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-67859047419573625222010-04-08T11:10:25.274-04:002010-04-08T11:10:25.274-04:00Joe's parents must be so proud that they raise...Joe's parents must be so proud that they raised such a "loving, caring man that puts his kids first". Note the sarcasm. <br /><br />Even if he wants to get back at you, he should suck it up, and think of his kids. That is so selfish of him.<br /><br />Again, his parents must be so proud.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-76236008444650709442010-04-08T08:29:23.264-04:002010-04-08T08:29:23.264-04:00Dawn.. I feel for you and I know what you are goin...Dawn.. I feel for you and I know what you are going through. I have been separated/divorced for 15 years now. My daughter was 2.5 years old when this occured. I was at a gathering one night where a young woman proceeded to tell me how she knew that she would never divorce. Her grandparents and her parents had both been married for many years and she just knew that would be the case for her Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-91853882142001469802010-04-07T23:53:15.883-04:002010-04-07T23:53:15.883-04:00My heart breaks for you and your kids. What an awf...My heart breaks for you and your kids. What an awful, unplanned situation. I just wrote (but have not yet posted it) a post on divorce. It seems in our lives (my husband and I) that a lot of women are bailing out on their husbands . . . usually because of an affair. <br /><br />Seems like yours is one of the true and few cases where you've exhausted your marital resources. Nothing else you TDM Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14490428486183766703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-1402235430073542102010-04-07T19:58:12.593-04:002010-04-07T19:58:12.593-04:00I am so sorry about your impending divorce. I hope...I am so sorry about your impending divorce. I hope everything works out and that Joe comes around so he can see the kids. <br /><br />And by the way, I love that first egg. Very pretty.AiringMyLaundryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11051140760624657630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-25246440667696196652010-04-07T17:54:45.781-04:002010-04-07T17:54:45.781-04:00Dear Dawn,
Please know that your fellow bloggites...Dear Dawn,<br /><br />Please know that your fellow bloggites love you and your kids. You have shared your life and heart with us and we count it a blessing to know you. <br /><br />I will continue to pray for you, your kids and yes, Joe. My heart hurts for all of you all but I know that the Lord can carry you all through this.<br /><br />(((HUGS))) Texas Size hug!<br /><br />~Lisa K. Dallas, Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-2902107657698668012010-04-07T16:48:05.587-04:002010-04-07T16:48:05.587-04:00Praying that Joe's heart will change and that ...Praying that Joe's heart will change and that you and the kids will be okay regardless of his decisions.Sherrynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-48067556490806606182010-04-07T15:24:19.270-04:002010-04-07T15:24:19.270-04:00Dawn:
You're a trooper! You are doing the bes...Dawn:<br /><br />You're a trooper! You are doing the best you can with what you've been dealt! Just keep doing what you're with the kids. Tell them their Daddy loves them. You are doing the right things. You are a GREAT Mom! We understand if you aren't blogging as much Dear! You are raising six kids alone.<br /><br />Maybe Joe is really depressed and he doesn't know what to doSharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16656482657146819996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-44969365233920126242010-04-07T15:22:20.406-04:002010-04-07T15:22:20.406-04:00Dawn,
I realize this is a hard time, but it will...Dawn, <br /><br />I realize this is a hard time, but it will get better with time. I'm 23, and my parents divorced and moved to seperate countries when I was 8. <br /><br />I Didn't see my Dad much at all until I was 14, and now we see each other all the time. Once I grew up, I re-connected with him. <br /><br />I'm sure over time, you're children will do the same. <br /><br />Kiki Nakitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12309091947067698247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-85220344499813917862010-04-07T14:32:42.504-04:002010-04-07T14:32:42.504-04:00That is so sad to hear. I will keep you in my pra...That is so sad to hear. I will keep you in my prayers, Dawn. Keep going strong and whenever you can, do take some time out for yourself and connect with God. Remember that you are not alone in this, you got many friends with you and many cyber friends praying and supporting you. Allow yourself to lean on others for support and encouragement. I don't know if this is helpful but I know Lyudanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-7314582706852140002010-04-07T13:38:04.026-04:002010-04-07T13:38:04.026-04:00Sending you hugs and prayers. My heart goes out t...Sending you hugs and prayers. My heart goes out to you and your kids. And I pray that God softens their father's heart because this is hard enough for them without him reacting the way he is. <br /><br />One day at a time & lots of prayer will get you all through this. God bless your sweet family!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-51234150702724811142010-04-07T13:31:44.513-04:002010-04-07T13:31:44.513-04:00You and those gorgeous kids of yours are in my tho...You and those gorgeous kids of yours are in my thoughts and prayers, my friend!Liz@thisfullhousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13667927814859471084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-18682352580186135512010-04-07T13:14:54.426-04:002010-04-07T13:14:54.426-04:00So sorry to hear about this divorce; but, you are ...So sorry to hear about this divorce; but, you are most fortunate that you are staying in your home.<br /><br />As for Joe not wanting visitation or custody: Then, don't give it to him. I say that not to be mean, but to help you go on; if he isn't going to be in the kids' lives, then it will be easier to know that now. You can always agree to have him see them when he is ready. If Sunnyworldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01531047554922044976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-91944230399452592022010-04-07T12:55:28.708-04:002010-04-07T12:55:28.708-04:00Wow! Where was I and how did I miss you being sep...Wow! Where was I and how did I miss you being separated????<br /><br />I recently divorced myself (separated in August, divorced official in January) and I have to say that I agree with you in that people, generally, don't go into marriage expecting to eventually divorce and with kids involved (I have 1 son who's 5), you try to do your best to "keep it all together". But, you&Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06580939362465098584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-53907913544410135322010-04-07T09:13:47.956-04:002010-04-07T09:13:47.956-04:00*sigh*
Oh dear, all I can tell him is that this w...*sigh*<br /><br />Oh dear, all I can tell him is that this will come back to bite him on the a***.<br /><br />Children are not stupid, they can work things out for themselves, and believe me once you distance yourself from your children, it's a long long hard road back.<br /><br />My ex did the same thing, and even now some 16 years later, his relationship with his daughters is... strained.<Denisehttp://dangledcaret.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-86975340371693855632010-04-07T07:53:27.414-04:002010-04-07T07:53:27.414-04:00I'm sorry that things have turned out this way...I'm sorry that things have turned out this way, and hopefully in time your soon-to-be ex husband will pull himself together and be a part of their lives again. I am a product of divorce and it was the best decision they could have made for us. Seriously. The day to day tension disappeared and they were able to move on with their lives. I know having a strong mom was invaluable to me, as it Samhttp://supersammomommy.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-14216341322905259992010-04-07T07:29:32.160-04:002010-04-07T07:29:32.160-04:00Dawn:
My XH went through a period like this where ...Dawn:<br />My XH went through a period like this where he said he was "separating in his own way." Our boys were 3 and 5 then. However, he did come around. He mostly operated as "fun dad," more of an uncle than a dad, but he did see them and everything. At first, though, he just withdrew.<br /><br />Hopefully, once Joe gets through whatever it is, he will resume a relationshipRubyThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06170736789149436097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-1992147565796101272010-04-07T02:20:36.679-04:002010-04-07T02:20:36.679-04:00I have only two words for you..
YOU ROCK!
And I do...I have only two words for you..<br />YOU ROCK!<br />And I don't mean in a Broklyn's egg sort of way. <br />I think with a little more green they could have been minniature Emu eggs. <br />Feel better soon.<br />*Big Hugs*<br />Be good<br />Belinda in Brisbane AustraliaUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02911529785315328176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-24156275411506263082010-04-07T01:59:13.202-04:002010-04-07T01:59:13.202-04:00sorry about everything thatz happening...huge hugs...sorry about everything thatz happening...huge hugs to you :) hope joe reads these comments and comes to his senses..I am really stopping myself hard from calling him any names...<br /><br />take care!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com