tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post4590317690671339032..comments2024-02-09T04:00:27.528-05:00Comments on BECAUSE I SAID SO: Let Them Eat Cake!Dawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00465587872521082056noreply@blogger.comBlogger67125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-54754130421004567022008-05-26T09:40:00.000-04:002008-05-26T09:40:00.000-04:00Just my input about being a SAHM. I've been one s...Just my input about being a SAHM. I've been one since December of '03 when I was 5 months pregnant with my first. My dh had just joined the Navy and I was lonely and overwhelmed and didn't know what to do. It was a hard adjustment for me in the beginning simply because at that point, I had worked nearly every day of my life for the previous 13 years. Now what? I started learning to cook, craftywitchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03550472083497596430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-39301048100311321932008-05-14T23:31:00.000-04:002008-05-14T23:31:00.000-04:00Go to your HS reunion! I came very close to not a...Go to your HS reunion! I came very close to not attending mine in Sept 08. I had just had a baby 8 weeks before. I am so glad I went. I had the best time! Everyone is so much less catty than at the 10 year reunion. And if yor're not having fun you can always just leave and hang out somewhere else.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-58544029033519573122008-05-09T13:23:00.000-04:002008-05-09T13:23:00.000-04:00ARGH!! I just had this nice long explanatory comm...ARGH!! I just had this nice long explanatory comment and then I pushed some random button and it disappeared.<BR/><BR/>So basically: cut each other some slack; have boat loads of respect and mercy for each other; and realize that men & women are fundamentally different--in the brain. Is all that easy to remember & act upon? No way! It's super hard, but worth it. A sacrifice isn't a sacrificeE. Simmonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15908806283552618364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-48335861655233787752008-05-09T10:45:00.000-04:002008-05-09T10:45:00.000-04:00I work a full-time job, which requires a bit of tr...I work a full-time job, which requires a bit of travel, so I really had to let go and trust that the kids would be OK with my husband while I wasn't there. Sure, they go to bed a little bit earlier, but he can do almost everything I can (but cut fingernails...he'll never cut the kids' fingernails, although he can give them their baths!) I have a 3-yr old and a 1-yr old, and I like my job...I'm Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15994107251755413239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-74287443850759905642008-05-08T16:24:00.000-04:002008-05-08T16:24:00.000-04:00Dawn,I found it interesting that you didn't feel i...Dawn,<BR/><BR/>I found it interesting that you didn't feel it was a big adjustment when you became a SAHM. Are you sure you are remembering it right? I went to college, then had an exciting job, then, the time came for my dream come true -- being a SAHM. Boy, life felt like it came to a screaming stand still with just one little infant and I alone all day in the house. It took me about 7-12 Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10035383344835323024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-42442565676007784802008-05-07T17:59:00.000-04:002008-05-07T17:59:00.000-04:00Wow, am I lucky! My husband and I have spent the ...Wow, am I lucky! My husband and I have spent the last year working on this transition, but my kids are only 2 years old and 7 months old! <BR/><BR/>I hear you. It is REALLY hard sometimes. It was hard when he didn't get what the priorities needed to be for the kids (or when he still doesn't seem to understand the concept of time passing). It's hard to let go of "my way" (i.e. the "right way"TChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18114855102842020691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-54477509169376789872008-05-07T17:45:00.000-04:002008-05-07T17:45:00.000-04:00I had something interesting to say but it left my ...I had something interesting to say but it left my brain the second I read you made the hotel bed! My husband's way is alwys theright way so I feel for your hubs! You will all adjust eventually.Daniellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16291042482677932193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-91745630874361986752008-05-07T15:46:00.000-04:002008-05-07T15:46:00.000-04:00Just remember there is no right way to do somethin...Just remember there is no right way to do something, he will make sure everything is done and really if your childs homework isn't signed every day, that isn't going to harm anyone. I am sure it is difficult for him to work fulltime and take on more responsibility at home. Things will work out, don't they always?<BR/><BR/>Use not used...but it is your blog, so who is counting, right? :)<BR/><BRAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-52798240435748263832008-05-07T14:58:00.000-04:002008-05-07T14:58:00.000-04:00Hi Dawn Love your blog... So I am the kind of mom ...Hi Dawn Love your blog... So I am the kind of mom that loves to work outside the home. I work in refineries and we usually have a seriously hectic schedule as in 7 days a week 12 hours a day any where from 4 weeks to 16 weeks its crazy I know I have 2 girls 8 and 3 this is crazy but I love working alot I mean a normal day for me is up at 430 get ready pack my lunch as well as my hubbys get the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-66180553890227066322008-05-07T13:52:00.000-04:002008-05-07T13:52:00.000-04:00Ok, this is gonna seem like a stupid question, but...Ok, this is gonna seem like a stupid question, but did you dye your hair? Maybe I'm imagining it, but it seems like your hair is more red in the picture of you by the sink. Have you always had the red tint to your hair? (When I first saw the picture of you by the sink, I thought maybe it wasn't you since I thought your hair was a darker brown...perhaps its just the angle of the light in that This Crazy Thing Called Motherhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14394296323776631276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-26219867550814892752008-05-07T12:52:00.000-04:002008-05-07T12:52:00.000-04:00The decision to switch from a working mom to a SAH...The decision to switch from a working mom to a SAHM was pretty easy when we realized the babysitter expected to be paid <I>more than I</I> was...<BR/><BR/>The biggest problems are from finances, when my DH brutally attacks me for buying food and cleaning products, while he's making all these leisure trips that are 60+ miles round trip, eating out all the time, and buying whatever catches his eye.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-17950368573306988042008-05-07T12:50:00.000-04:002008-05-07T12:50:00.000-04:00Dawn, First of all, I LOVE "Cheaper By the Dozen,"...Dawn, <BR/>First of all, I LOVE "Cheaper By the Dozen," and knew exactly which scene you referred to. I can certainly relate to the transition you must be facing. I have always worked, so DH and I really had to share the responsibilities of caring for our home and our children from the get-go. What I will tell you is that it is "Mission Critical" that DH share at least 50% of the responsibility. KC Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14344689649358418395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-54957533750147288262008-05-07T11:34:00.000-04:002008-05-07T11:34:00.000-04:00Change is never easy, it certainly takes getting u...Change is never easy, it certainly takes getting used to! As a single, working mom I don't get to be a SAHM so I really can't relate to being home all day. I can relate to trying to juggle work with things like supper, homework, and ballgames though. It can certainly be stressful. Just hang in there. I hope it all works out for you soon.<BR/><BR/>www.kathy-iamwhoiam.blogspot.comKathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06421713950020402708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-90934907700456115582008-05-07T11:02:00.000-04:002008-05-07T11:02:00.000-04:00I quit working full time when our third child was ...I quit working full time when our third child was about 8 months old. I was convinced I would suck at it and could hardly stand to be alone with me but surely I'd ruin them forever. My husband worked 12 hours a day, seven days a week. I spent A LOT of time at my mom's house. It took about a year but I did eventually transition.<BR/><BR/>Seven years and two more kids later, I still love it! I Kari Dawsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05126367022113250883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-48206679656802231602008-05-07T10:31:00.000-04:002008-05-07T10:31:00.000-04:00As a mom of three who has been dancing back and fo...As a mom of three who has been dancing back and forth across the minefield of working outside the home to working inside the home to being a fulltime law student to graduating, passing the bar, moving to the Chicago area, and becoming a temporary SAHM, I can feel your pain. My husband stepped up when I went to law school and made it possible for me not only to attend, but to excel. That said, IAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-20330270242852099162008-05-07T09:38:00.000-04:002008-05-07T09:38:00.000-04:00I am feeling your pain, sister! I just wrote a bl...I am feeling your pain, sister! I just wrote a blog called "Hating the Weekends" because suddenly, with my own work in the picture, it is way too much for me to try to "catch up" on the weekends all by myself. Everyone else in the family wants to go on with business as usual with their weekend and I'm stuck fighting laundry, groceries, scheduling, meals, prep, etc. Where's my weekend? Mom help4newmomshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13930398899221348690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-16021743915261360082008-05-07T09:24:00.000-04:002008-05-07T09:24:00.000-04:00Maybe it would help to remind yourself every now a...Maybe it would help to remind yourself every now and then that you got into the mothering job one child at a time....building your confidence and skill level along the way. Your husband kind of took charge with 6 at one time...He's got a lot to learn.oklhdanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01371904174197202740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-45861413061396387162008-05-07T07:51:00.000-04:002008-05-07T07:51:00.000-04:00Hey Dawn,You'll know the accent has taken roots wh...Hey Dawn,<BR/><BR/>You'll know the accent has taken roots when you say "Listen to ya Motha!"Your stories are too FABULOUS. I am a SAHM but only to two boys. Who will both be in High School next year. I awalys seem to try to do things like work or go back to school when my DH leaves. He's leaving for Iraq in the summer and I am planning on working part time while he's gone. When he left for a yearMichellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17959886363973178553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-4807775714759779332008-05-07T07:39:00.000-04:002008-05-07T07:39:00.000-04:00(((hugs)))I didn't read all the comments. (Althou...(((hugs)))<BR/>I didn't read all the comments. (Although I did read---and agree with---the one that suggested how Joe might be feeling).<BR/>This is totally obvious, but sometimes we need to be reminded of it......but really pray for your husband and for you and for your kids as you guys are going through this. I'll be praying for you guys, too!<BR/>We have 6 kids, and DH has been gone a LOT. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-27436224438227214622008-05-07T07:12:00.000-04:002008-05-07T07:12:00.000-04:00Dawn, you are such a hard worker and great writer....Dawn, you are such a hard worker and great writer. I am sure all this new found success has found a little monetary relief for you and your family. Find someone you trust who needs to earn a little extra money and hire them to do your easy no brainer jobs like vacuuming, cleaning bathrooms, laundry and ironing. I find it MOST helpful and it frees me up to do the Mommy stuff I like the most. Play Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-65633783266924156272008-05-07T04:25:00.000-04:002008-05-07T04:25:00.000-04:00Since Joe has always worked really long hours and ...Since Joe has always worked really long hours and you have always been at home with the kids, you have an advantage. You got to start with Austin and learn with him, then you added Savannah into a fairly well established routine, and with each new child there were small changes to that routine to accommodate another child. Joe is jumping in at the deep end - he's having to learn how to go out to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-17979626633727214802008-05-07T02:57:00.000-04:002008-05-07T02:57:00.000-04:00Oh Dawn, you hit a nerve with me tonight, a husban...Oh Dawn, you hit a nerve with me tonight, a husband nerve that is. I'm 35, have been married for 14 years, have a 12-year-old and an 8-year-old. When my son was born, I turned into a stay at home mom----loved it, not too hard of a transition because I loved every minute of it. With that said, we bought a home and I had to work---so now I'm a medical transcriptionist and I work from home full Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-75920413390328484532008-05-07T00:18:00.000-04:002008-05-07T00:18:00.000-04:00It's a really hard adjustment from stay-at-home mo...It's a really hard adjustment from stay-at-home mom to working, whatever type of work you do. My husband worked extra jobs so I could stay at home with my 3 kids, and I even homeschooled for 8 years. When I went back to school, and then grad school, we had a really hard adjustment, and to top it off I was going through the stage with hot flashes, mood swings, weight gain, insomnia, etc. He Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-78004680944232210592008-05-06T23:40:00.000-04:002008-05-06T23:40:00.000-04:00I've been there, Dawn, and I'm there now.I quit wo...I've been there, Dawn, and I'm there now.<BR/><BR/>I quit work two years ago to stay at home with the wee ones, but that lasted 6 months before I went back part time. As one poster mentioned, I wanted a warm lunch sometimes and to go to the bathroom when I wanted. <BR/><BR/>Now I work PT and only one day in the office. It's a better balance for me, and my husband does help with some things.<BRMichellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07803503583347758969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-55620705384268436142008-05-06T23:09:00.000-04:002008-05-06T23:09:00.000-04:00Dawn~Even though I only have 3 daughters and 1 ste...Dawn~<BR/>Even though I only have 3 daughters and 1 stepdaughter, I can somewhat relate to what you're feeling. I've been on both sides of the working fence. Believe me when I say this: Pray, and the Lord will give you peace about what you're doing, or He won't. Renounce all the demons from giving you doubts about your motherhood/wife abilities (because believe me, they will and can do it as Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com