tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post4311144822366656843..comments2024-02-09T04:00:27.528-05:00Comments on BECAUSE I SAID SO: Controlling Your Bladder is Easier Than Controlling Your KidsDawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00465587872521082056noreply@blogger.comBlogger290125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-38287042045416374082007-11-16T08:09:00.000-05:002007-11-16T08:09:00.000-05:00I vividly recall one flight--on a small puddle-jum...I vividly recall one flight--on a small puddle-jumper--where I am convinced the only reason I was able to get off the plane alive is that one of my children, then 6, was perfectly behaved--sat still, took the offered beverage politely, didn't spill, and only asked me a couple of questions, spending the rest of her time with her Gameboy. The other, a toddler, screeched the entire time--nothing Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11602474537955655389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-35105442570278238982007-10-27T16:46:00.000-04:002007-10-27T16:46:00.000-04:00Right on! Children make choices all day long - it...Right on! Children make choices all day long - it's our job as parents to teach them how make good choices but ultimately the choices they make are theirs. I use the Responsible Thinking Process with my kids. This series of questions are asked in a calm quiet voice. What are you doing? Is that okay? What happens when you choose to break the rules? Is that what you want to happen? What Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-27696652964947938142007-10-26T23:39:00.000-04:002007-10-26T23:39:00.000-04:00I didn't get to read all the comments so I don't k...I didn't get to read all the comments so I don't know if anybody has mentioned this or not...<BR/><BR/>It is clearly close minded that there are people out there that assume you are Mormon just because you have a lot of children. But I think the comment about the Mormon with the coffee ads was not meant to be mean spirited. I could be wrong but I think it was just amusement because the person Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-43369188468065939882007-10-26T15:45:00.000-04:002007-10-26T15:45:00.000-04:00I really needed this post. Thank you!!I really needed this post. Thank you!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-42522505079942446832007-10-26T10:40:00.000-04:002007-10-26T10:40:00.000-04:00I cannot wait to look up the books and to read t...I cannot wait to look up the books and to read them to my husband. He is a great father, but I sometimes refer to him as "the supper nazi." He is the perfect example of one who talks too much. I sat there trying to interrupt him one evening as he told our 5 year old son that he was tired of throwing money away because he didn't eat all his lunch at school and wasn't finishing his supper. I Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-70048686808509681182007-10-26T08:26:00.000-04:002007-10-26T08:26:00.000-04:00Thank you, thank you, thank you! I totally agree ...Thank you, thank you, thank you! I totally agree -- however, once again, it was just theory for me. In practical terms I just yelled at my son, was totally unfair to my daughter -- and, hey, what's that my baby is chewing on?<BR/><BR/>*wwwwaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhh*!<BR/><BR/>By the way: do you have any good advice on being on a plane with a baby? What do you do to help her over the take offAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-24249739064427153602007-10-25T17:24:00.000-04:002007-10-25T17:24:00.000-04:00I enjoyed learning about your parenting style...yo...I enjoyed learning about your parenting style...you are in control of your choices...including raising your children to be competent participants in an 'independency' focused society such as ours here in america...I work with children and families and often times you don't find parenting styles match our societal expectations...I have also read some of Jim Fay's parenting/disciplining idea books.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-75567161179719904612007-10-25T13:16:00.000-04:002007-10-25T13:16:00.000-04:00I just wanted to say I am a recent newcomer to you...I just wanted to say I am a recent newcomer to your blog and have almost caught up. While I have been very entertained (read looking forward to your book), this is the first post I have felt the need to comment on. I feel that you have it right when it comes to parenting in this way. The one thing I think is wrong with most parents now days is they just do not feel the need to impart common Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-53985753356841168432007-10-25T12:08:00.000-04:002007-10-25T12:08:00.000-04:00Always a pleasure to read your blog. You are a mo...Always a pleasure to read your blog. You are a modern day Erma Bombeck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-51189534781039536172007-10-25T07:04:00.000-04:002007-10-25T07:04:00.000-04:00I think I love you LOL!I love the statement "not r...I think I love you LOL!<BR/><BR/>I love the statement "not responsible FOR them, responsible TO them". How right Mr. Hal is! I feel like I have two personalities - the one begging to just act and react, and the "MOM' one, filtering everything I say and do with "hmmmm...how will the kids see this?" Glad to see I am heading in the right direction by using my own self-control to demonstrate to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-6433088119881021132007-10-25T03:53:00.000-04:002007-10-25T03:53:00.000-04:00I love this post! You made some great points! I'm ...I love this post! You made some great points! I'm actually in college at the moment and last semester in my psychology class the instructor said that the children that you need to worry about the most are the ones that behave and do everything you tell them all the time. Just like you said, if they obey everything you say without question what's to stop them from obeying when their peers want Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-90016902831141361282007-10-25T00:18:00.000-04:002007-10-25T00:18:00.000-04:00Dawn,I TOTALLY agree with you! I have 4 kids and ...Dawn,<BR/>I TOTALLY agree with you! I have 4 kids and I have to say, I LOVE your blog. It's my life. I am so with you on the homework issue! They can't and won't learn to be responsible and hold accountability if they don't take charge of their assignments. It's not my job to teach them the ABC's. That is what I pay the educational system to do. You are great! I love your parenting The Tomlin Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12749690777178526893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-88591569282360684632007-10-24T23:38:00.000-04:002007-10-24T23:38:00.000-04:00I agree with you on the not fighting with the kids...I agree with you on the not fighting with the kids about eating dinner... My kids get told, "This is what we are having. You don't want it, don't eat it, but that's the ONLY thing you are getting". They eat with us every night. Guess the thought of eating that "yucky" broccoli is more appealing then going to bed hungry!<BR/><BR/>I do however, disagree with the homework situation. I for one Raehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05481137214938200146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-39383390104605041042007-10-24T20:52:00.000-04:002007-10-24T20:52:00.000-04:00I am so new to this blogging thing that I didn't e...I am so new to this blogging thing that I didn't even know I was a lurker! In fact I was only turned to the blogging world when I got an email with the ebay sale link. (I know, where have I been right?)Since then I have read every day and I LOVE it. It is my laugh break. I have 2 kids (3 and 6 mos) and it is so fun to read your adventures. <BR/><BR/>So why am I off the lurker wagon? Well I just Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-69193818652578889992007-10-24T20:06:00.000-04:002007-10-24T20:06:00.000-04:00Isn't is amazing how some people feel entitled to ...Isn't is amazing how some people feel entitled to leave such rude comments! I think your blogs are GREAT! They make me laugh, make me think....make me thank GOD I don't have 6 kids!! = ) Just kidding! I only have 2 but think having a larger family would be so fun. I have a good friend who has 10 brothers and sisters, so growing up hanging around that family was always so much fun...never a Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01426211079691326347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-82146796189183369372007-10-24T19:18:00.000-04:002007-10-24T19:18:00.000-04:00You are so right about controlling kids. Love & L...You are so right about controlling kids. Love & Logic talks about a choices, control and natural consequences also. As far as your trip goes good luck! I just traveled on four planes with my four kids. It wasn't so hard. I packed lots of snacks and treats that they never get to keep them busy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-72163562832278842732007-10-24T18:50:00.000-04:002007-10-24T18:50:00.000-04:00I was fortunate to learn this lesson as a teacher ...I was fortunate to learn this lesson as a teacher BEFORE I had kids:<BR/><BR/>You can't make ANYONE do ANYTHING.<BR/><BR/>You can motivate them, scare them, teach them, inspire them, abuse them, make them want to be like you, whatever...and the means tell you more about yourself than the other person. But kids(surprise surprise) are people, same as adults, and cannot be forced to do anything. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-35043959178750518932007-10-24T18:44:00.000-04:002007-10-24T18:44:00.000-04:00When traveling with children and faced with rude p...When traveling with children and faced with rude people who direct comments to you (or under their breath) do what I always do...Shift your eyes from side to side, look as confused as you can (this isn't too difficult for me) and tell them with a straight face, "the voices in my head said it was okay for them to act like that". They usually back away pretty quickly clearing the way for me to walkAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-67065399707150160782007-10-24T17:51:00.000-04:002007-10-24T17:51:00.000-04:00I am so glad I read this post! I'm new to this mom...I am so glad I read this post! I'm new to this mom thing - just have a 3 month old - and I've been reading the blog since the ebay auction. Your comments really sum up how I feel about discipline, which I haven't done yet but will in the future I'm sure! I appreciate your insight and including the books for reference. I'm going to get them so my husband and I can get ready for what lies ahead!erinvehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10633125281757430176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-65477038638877478722007-10-24T15:18:00.000-04:002007-10-24T15:18:00.000-04:00Way to go!! You're right if they don't like it, d...Way to go!! You're right if they don't like it, don't read it! <BR/><BR/>I really love your thoughts on "controlling" our kids. I'm sure every parent stuggles with not controlling themselves. I know I do. Keep up with the advice because I need it and the more I read things like this it empowers me and reminds me to be better. I really want to have that "sorry, that's the consequence" Mauzy Famhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06536609902295576561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-48402929468537329092007-10-24T14:33:00.000-04:002007-10-24T14:33:00.000-04:00I took my son to a classical music concert when he...I took my son to a classical music concert when he was about 10, and I couldn't believe the people around us who were whispering and glancing at him like he was going to scream through the entire concert. In fact, he loves music and sat on the edge of his seat the whole concert, loving every moment of it! I felt sorry for him because he knew those people were talking about him, and I told him PattyGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06786562266696799446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-37608441216193078572007-10-24T13:49:00.000-04:002007-10-24T13:49:00.000-04:00Hey Dawn!I have been reading your blog for a while...Hey Dawn!I have been reading your blog for a while now and just wanted to let you know how much I appreciate it! I have never commmented on a blog but just had to give you applaud on this last one. Since when did it become a law in this country that in order to have more than 2 children you have to sign up for the mormon faith? Seriously, how many times are you going to have to clarify that Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-86839508926997239342007-10-24T13:23:00.000-04:002007-10-24T13:23:00.000-04:00Dawn, I swear, we must excrete the same pheramone ...Dawn, I swear, we must excrete the same pheramone that intoxicates people into telling us the rudest things. I have had people ask if my children had different fathers because one is blonde and one is a brunette. I have had people ask if I now felt it was "a little ambitious to adopt them so close in age". Or when I was pregnant and a woman was insistant that I was having twins, no matter how Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-55324727287611170472007-10-24T13:06:00.000-04:002007-10-24T13:06:00.000-04:00I appreciated your comments and the comments other...I appreciated your comments and the comments others have posted as a result. It's so interesting to read the perspective of others. I do not believe in the kind of rude commenting that has been so heavily discussed. Those who choose to take offense or who simply don't like what you have to say should find their own forum to comment and not yours.<BR/><BR/>On another note...there are many Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-60544789752335060022007-10-24T12:28:00.000-04:002007-10-24T12:28:00.000-04:00I found your blog because I read abcnews.com every...I found your blog because I read abcnews.com everyday. I have finally finished reading all of the blog. I will probably get into trouble because while reading it I tend to laugh out loud! Trouble, you may ask, well I am at work and really shouldn't be reading this! Thank you for letting us all into your life and for the reassurance that our children are not the only little devils and angels Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com