tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post1384056429713720968..comments2024-02-09T04:00:27.528-05:00Comments on BECAUSE I SAID SO: I Want My Two Dollars!Dawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00465587872521082056noreply@blogger.comBlogger177125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-68398471636661519072008-07-18T00:32:00.000-04:002008-07-18T00:32:00.000-04:00i've been meaning to leave a comment, but alas...i...i've been meaning to leave a comment, but alas...<BR/><BR/>it's lame that she had her heart broken like this so young. BUT, she really did learn a valuable lesson...one that most of us don't learn until we're thousands of dollars in debt because a friend couldn't/wouldn't pay us back.<BR/><BR/>she'll be more guarded, which sucks, but she'll bounce back.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-24902805510765889632008-07-14T07:50:00.000-04:002008-07-14T07:50:00.000-04:00Savanah had $77.08 she could loan? Where was I wh...Savanah had $77.08 she could loan? Where was I when that bank was open? <BR/><BR/>Savanah, could you spot poor Ricky-poo a few? I'm running a bit short. Or has that bank closed too?<BR/><BR/>http://organizeddoodles.blogspot.com/Rickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07965400321043093038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-52319323244974451102008-07-12T20:46:00.000-04:002008-07-12T20:46:00.000-04:00EBAY, EBAY, EBAY it! The world needs another Dawn ...EBAY, EBAY, EBAY it! The world needs another Dawn Meehan ebay adventure.<BR/><BR/>You have my word I'd be your first bidder!Jennifer Fosterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10762508391191695585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-49703572078137528022008-07-12T15:53:00.000-04:002008-07-12T15:53:00.000-04:00The same thing happened to my son. I tried to use ...The same thing happened to my son. I tried to use the experience as a lesson of "don't lend anything to anybody if you want to ever see it again". I explained that everbody has diffent morals and if you are going to loan someone something you have to take the chance you may never see it again so think of it as a gift that could come back. I hate it when my children get hurt my first reaction is Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-60255740569515404022008-07-11T16:01:00.000-04:002008-07-11T16:01:00.000-04:00I hate to say this but it might have to be one of ...I hate to say this but it might have to be one of those life lessons for her. I would ebay the clothes and I would take the $20 from the other girl and explain to the mom what the girl bought and if she doesn't offer more money maybe Savannah will let the friendship slide away. I would (now this may not be the right thing to do) give her $20 myself and tell her she will have to cut her losses PaperSunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08813660109619002956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-48271127661668396522008-07-10T23:16:00.000-04:002008-07-10T23:16:00.000-04:00Well that stinks! I'm sorry for Savannah. It sou...Well that stinks! I'm sorry for Savannah. It sounds pointless to fight it with the mom because the girl probably is scared and I betcha the mom already knows (even if deep down inside) how truthful her daughter is. <BR/><BR/>I think I'd just get that 20 from them and just be the bigger person. It's not like the girl is getting away with anything because she knows that Savannah knows ... and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-3860418211913154652008-07-10T23:06:00.000-04:002008-07-10T23:06:00.000-04:00I'm so sorry that Savannah has to go through somet...I'm so sorry that Savannah has to go through something like this so young :( I am praying that the little girl tells the truth and things can be worked out. Sorry no advice cause my girls are only 9 and 7.Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05570845316497170915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-63110039743603603642008-07-10T22:57:00.000-04:002008-07-10T22:57:00.000-04:00I read quite a few of the comments and honestly, t...I read quite a few of the comments and honestly, the mom and daughter could always say that she used $50 of her own money before borrowing the $20 from Savannah. Of course you would always know the truth, but don't forget that they have that loophole. It's such a shame that our children have to learn these lessons at such a young age. I'm so sorry. If you list them on ebay, let me know--I'll Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-35285955129166226892008-07-10T22:50:00.000-04:002008-07-10T22:50:00.000-04:00aww how sad for Savannah... I too have great saver...aww how sad for Savannah... I too have great savers for kids both of my girls automatically put any change found, gifts or anything like this in a coca cola bottle bank... I added it up not too long ago and in a 2 years together they have collected 500.00 about 112 of that was in change well we decided to have a garage sale this past week and I needed some change so rather than go to the bank I Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-51137394133181093992008-07-10T22:25:00.000-04:002008-07-10T22:25:00.000-04:00Dawn,Having 3 teenagers myself. I have had to dea...Dawn,<BR/><BR/>Having 3 teenagers myself. I have had to deal with things like this. I would go to house unannounced (dont want to give them a heads up) and confront them and have your daughter explain exactly what happened. If the evil child doesnt confess and the mother of the spawn doesnt cough up the money it will then show your daughter that not everyone can be trusted. Its sad but will Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-79467529639349618532008-07-10T21:30:00.001-04:002008-07-10T21:30:00.001-04:00I am so sorry that Savannah has to be taught anyth...I am so sorry that Savannah has to be taught anything...she is so generous and sweet! It was not HER fault that this "friend" took advantage of her.<BR/><BR/>I would agree to take the paltry $20 that the mother and daughter agreed to give her, and I think that eBay would be a great way to get the emotional baggage of the clothes out of the house, and money back in Savannah's pocket.<BR/><BR/>I Chelfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17119337676026420626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-53124709058564291182008-07-10T21:30:00.000-04:002008-07-10T21:30:00.000-04:00Hi Dawn-I know you've already gotten a lot of advi...Hi Dawn-I know you've already gotten a lot of advice on this topic and I have to agree that this is a hard lesson for Savannah to learn. I only have one other insight to add. Money isn't the only currency exchanged here. As one other commenter pointed out, besides showing her generosity and faith in friends, Savannah has an opportunity to show forgiveness. Kids, even tweens, are still kids. This Mollymomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02061629261787190131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-51291949752490240342008-07-10T21:18:00.000-04:002008-07-10T21:18:00.000-04:00I don't have any better advice than anyone else bu...I don't have any better advice than anyone else but I just had to comment/compliment you on letting her choose her friends. My mom did the same thing. She would "advise" me of what she thought but let me know it was my decision...and of course she was right and that friend turned out to be a bad one...but guess what? From that I learned to pick friends more carefully and pay attention to the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-30422256075157887512008-07-10T21:05:00.000-04:002008-07-10T21:05:00.000-04:00Something very similar to what happened to Savanna...Something very similar to what happened to Savannah happened to me when I was her same age. My mom called and got the girl on the phone and in the sweetest voice, laced with steel, said "Well, since you are going to keep on lying, you give me no choice. I am going to call the police as soon as we hang up." I had my money is less than 30 mins...and NOT just $20...:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-50378989891506245222008-07-10T20:14:00.000-04:002008-07-10T20:14:00.000-04:00Aww, poor Savannah! My only kid (so far!) is stil...Aww, poor Savannah! My only kid (so far!) is still a bun in the oven, so I have no "wisdom of experience" to offer, but my advice would be to take Savannah to the girl's house for the $20 and hand to the girl (in her mother's presence) an itemized reciept for all the items purchased. Perhaps she could simply say something like, "Here, I thought you'd like a reciept, just in case you need it." Jess B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/14831301278515035580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-50826539033289757642008-07-10T19:48:00.000-04:002008-07-10T19:48:00.000-04:00I would have both girls tell their stories. Bring...I would have both girls tell their stories. Bring the evidence of prices - maybe have Savannah go back to the mall and retrace the "friend's" shopping tracks and get prices via digital camera, receipt or something. If the "friend" says $20 and Savannah says $77 - split the difference.....if you can swing that. Good luck! Hugs to Savannah for being such a nice young lady.MtnGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01882656639070055494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-71549593983147400692008-07-10T19:42:00.000-04:002008-07-10T19:42:00.000-04:00Unfortunately for Savannah this is a lesson learne...Unfortunately for Savannah this is a lesson learned. It comes down to her word against the other girls and of course the other mom is going to believe her own child. If she doesn't want the outfit I think eBay is a great idea, at least she'll get something back.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14256725971702321082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-45066757188234625282008-07-10T19:36:00.000-04:002008-07-10T19:36:00.000-04:00I would call the mom and say that since there is a...I would call the mom and say that since there is a dispute with the amt of money, that you think it would be best if they would just return the items to Savannah and then you can ebay them and hopefully you can get more than the $20 back for Savannah. <BR/><BR/>I hate these life lessons. I'm 30 and going through the same crap. Tell Savannah she's a great kid and not everyone is like this girl.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-36947382371104495092008-07-10T18:42:00.000-04:002008-07-10T18:42:00.000-04:00I think Amy's idea in the beginning of the comment...I think Amy's idea in the beginning of the comments about taking them to DQ and discussing it is a good idea. <BR/><BR/>Personally, I try to never mix money with friendships (other than simply giving it to them, or unless I know they can be trusted), because it's just too easy for it to get messy. and that may be something that Savannah will have to learn.<BR/><BR/>I think trust has to be earned.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-56027378341695676522008-07-10T18:40:00.000-04:002008-07-10T18:40:00.000-04:00Oh man, sometimes life's lessons suck!(I'll qualif...Oh man, sometimes life's lessons suck!<BR/><BR/>(I'll qualify myself by saying that I work in the court system with delinquent youth and I'm a certified mediator, so I have experience with similar situations.)<BR/><BR/>My adivce, support your daughter, ultimately anything that happens should be her decision! Good job at getting permission to call the other parent!<BR/><BR/>A lesson you may chooseJoslin @ Just Battyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16085973509957294743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-65792414091660936612008-07-10T17:58:00.000-04:002008-07-10T17:58:00.000-04:00So sorry for you and your daughter... lots of goo...So sorry for you and your daughter... lots of good advice has already been posted and I look forward to your follow-up... MY ADVISE: Simply get this BLOG address into her mailbox ASAP!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-19378192936867447572008-07-10T17:40:00.000-04:002008-07-10T17:40:00.000-04:00I agree with Sara-Take the receipt that you do hav...I agree with Sara-<BR/><BR/>Take the receipt that you do have. Print out pictures of the other pieces of clothing that the girl bought. And then itemize a list and go sit down with both the parent(s) and the girl. <BR/><BR/>If nothing else, both you and Savannah will know that you tried and by putting the girl on the spot in front of the parent(s)- maybe you can get her to tell the truth. <BRAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-77791763091075607182008-07-10T17:19:00.000-04:002008-07-10T17:19:00.000-04:00Wow, Dawn. I really hope I never have to deal with...Wow, Dawn. I really hope I never have to deal with something like that with my girls... I think you handled it as best you could, and who better than you could pull off an eBay auction of the outfit to recoup poor Savannah's loss? : )Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-43182225754863694382008-07-10T17:03:00.000-04:002008-07-10T17:03:00.000-04:00That really sucks.But I love the reference to Bett...That really sucks.<BR/><BR/>But I love the reference to Better Off DeadRachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11415419151770687719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4732255176396931795.post-2064349545362468132008-07-10T17:02:00.000-04:002008-07-10T17:02:00.000-04:00oh wow, difficult issue. i'm aware that this might...oh wow, difficult issue. <BR/><BR/>i'm aware that this might be a cultural issue as well so forgive me if my suggestion is too blunt or rude. i would confront the mother with the facts, what you have seen, what info you found online etc. <BR/><BR/>at some point i would also like to hear the opinion of the girl and ask her specifically about what her purchase was worth and who if not savannah and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com